Well, maybe my friends were just sluts, but we never did that. We preferred to daydream about our first fuck. Or something equally embarrassing. But our idyllic deflowering fantasies rarely came to fruition. In reality, most girls from my school lost their virginity slumped against a tree in an apple orchard, bark jabbing uncomfortably into their spines, in between rounds of beer pong. Not particularly romantic, but kind of patriotic?
Whether mind-blowing, horrifying or simply banal, virginity stories are not new. These women get rid of their virginity. They abandon it. They donate it. It is stolen from them. But lost? Rarely is a virginity lost.
Mary Beth McAndrews explores virginity, shame and awkward realities in the teen movies of our collective youth. Virginity: the pinnacle of teenage success is losing it. Being a virgin is a shame that many try to hide, before then wearing its loss like a badge of honor once it has been taken away. This obsession has been captured in films over and over again, from obscene comedies to over-the-top horror films and somber dramas.
We were guessing based on how kind they were, whether they were in a band vs. I was shocked for days. The difference in our sexual experience made me feel like I was humiliatingly behind — was I supposed to be familiar enough with sex to prefer some acts over others? The disconnect between our experience and what our peers go through still disturbs people my age, a decade later, because many of us want to feel that our behaviors, particularly sexual, fall into the norm. So among Americans, when and how do most people lose their virginities?